Morals of the world

There are some things about some of the morals of the world that I really don't understand all that well. For example, long term boyfriend/girlfriend situations where they begin to act like a married couple. For example they buy a house together and begin to plan and start a family. Nothing quite says temporary like the phrase "We're just dating." Dating is great and all and if you choose to have sex during that relationship well, that is your choice. But actively trying to get pregnant with someone who you are not serious enough with to marry... Well that really boggles my mind.

As people may know, I'm pregnant and because I am pregnant I have switched up my forum boards that I read. I am now a frequent reader of a birth board. A birth board is made up of a bunch of women who are all due in the same month and year that I am. There a huge slew of pregnant women who are roughly about as far along as I am come together to voice their opinions, their concerns, their sorrows, their fears, their questions and pretty much anything else that comes to mind. And one of the common thread topics is: "I don't know if my boyfriend and I are going to stay together!!" So here you have a woman who has signed herself up for the possibility of becoming a single mother just because they didn't think it was important or even necessary to wait to have sex, or sometimes to have children, until they were married. And now that they are pregnant most of them are not considering marriage, because it just doesn't feel right, or they don't want to, or why should they?

As I mentioned before, it boggles my mind. Now don't get me wrong, plenty of marriages end up in divorce. All the time. But it is a good bit more difficult when you are married to just split. There is a better chance of sticking together than there would be if you were just dating. If you are just dating someone it is actually pretty easy to break up the relationship. There is no legal actions taken, you take your stuff, and I take mine and we go our separate ways. And if there happens to be a child in the mix? Well truth is, not all dads pay child support.

So again I find myself wondering, even though your morals are not the same as mine when it comes to how you choose to live your life, don't you kind of think about the possibilities of losing your significant other in a situation like this? What really confuses me are the threads about how the woman and her boyfriend have been trying to have a child for like two or three years. Not sure that you really want to marry this person, but you have been trying to conceive for years? I don't quite get it. And no, I can not ask these questions on my birth board, I would be attacked faster than a sneezing pregnant woman could wet her pants. So instead I will post my confusion here.